‘Trusting in LA’ Needs To Not Be So Trusting

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While on vacation, I read the newspaper every day. After hitting the front page and getting the news I flipped to the softer stories on the inside. I seemed to always find Dear Abby. One of the days I read a question that still irks me. I just can’t believe a woman in today’s world could be fooled by a man so easily. Here’s how the letter reads (in part):

Dear Abby:
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Last week after I picked up our clothes at the dry cleaner and checked them as I loaded them into the car, I came across an expensive black lace bra, size 36DD. (I am a small B.) I became very upset — I tend to be the jealous type — and threw it out the sunroof of my car onto the freeway on my way home.

When my boyfriend got home from his medical meeting that night, I confronted him. He told me it had to have been mistakenly added to our order, and asked me what I had done with it. When I said I had thrown it out, he became irate and ordered me to look for it.

The next day, his friend (a lawyer) called me and told me the bra was evidence in a sexual assault case. He said it had DNA on it and he needed it for court. He said I should go back to the freeway and look for it. I did, but could not locate it.

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It’s signed — “Trusting in L.A.”

(Read the full letter here.)

The woman ends the letter by asking how she can right this with her boyfriend because she feels guilty. I just can’t believe that this wouldn’t cause flags to go up in this woman’s head. That the boyfriend could so EASILY twist the truth around so that she feels guilty. She should be leaving this looser, not feeling guilty.

I know, I know, there are some of you out there with hearts. Some of you who may have fallen for something similar. I know it’s hard, to use a popular phrase, to see the forest for the trees, but this seems to be an extreme example of naivate. I wish that women would be more skeptical. Some might say I’m too skeptical, but I’d rather be skeptical than naive.

I was justified in my thoughts when I read Abby’s response. In short, she tells “Trusting” that her boyfriend is a cheater and that she needs to leave this looser (my words).