I just wrapped up my HuffPost Live interview with the super sweet host Nancy Redd. She had four moms on her panel talking about balancing mothetherhood. HMM, I think I know a little blog with that title 🙂 The actual title is, “Balancing Parenting & Everything Else.” It was such a great experience, but even more, it’s an important topic — and conversation.
We talked about how we struggle to find time for ourselves and answer the question: is it OK to be “more than just a mom?” One of the show’s guests was Kristin Armstrong who wrote a piece for HuffPost.com, titled “The Dollhouse Years,” where she talks about being a mother and a person. She writes,
The era of small children is enough to wring every last drop of energy and identity out of a woman. We temporarily forget who we are and even when we have lucid moments, we’re too tired and overwhelmed to do much about it anyway.
She continues later in the article to say,
I am not sure how this happens, but we weirdly forget the things we love, the gifts that make us unique and the talents that point us in the direction of our purpose.
I believe this is true for many of us. We put everyone else ahead of us and we need to make sure we prioritize our desires (even if it’s only every now and then). Otherwise, what will happen when the children are grown, living on their own? Who will we be then?
On the chat, Kristen talked about something that has become close to my heart: grace. In the piece, Kristen talks about giving grace. Giving grace to ourselves and to one another. This is so important. We need to not beat ourselves up when we need to ask for time alone, for a date with our spouse, or a weekend away. By allowing grace to enter, we give permission to what is needed in our lives.
There were two other moms who offered great advice from their own experiences — Bethany Ramos, a work-at-home mom (who also has a husband who works at home too) who has two small children close in age, and another working mom, Tessa Barnett who talked about the importance of taking time for herself, even if it’s just some time in the tub!
The conversation was short, but anything that gets women thinking about how to best balance their own lives is a win in my book.
Watch the video and let me know what you think.
How do you balance motherhood? Tell us in the comments below.